I dont need a mate but my 36 year old sister does. She wont get out in the world. Her husband died on his bike in a awful crash. 2 years now. I would love to set her up for a lunch date. She is 5'9 and gorgeous,long hair to her waist. about a size 6. If interested to help me leave me a mesage poisonchild13.. central Florida people only please.
A man was hiking through the woods and found a cocoon. He watched the cocoon every day waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.
Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
The man in his kindness and haste did not understand the purpose of the cocoon. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. That was the only way it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. We would like to go through life with ease and especially no pain but that isn?t always the case.
WOW..thats a powerful way to explain yourself.so true/accurate.touched my soul
My simple advise to you about your sister is to simply include her in some H.O.G. Chapter get togethers and to let her go out and meet people at her own pace...
Buy her a H.O.G. membership and join yourself also...
She can meet nice people...Have some fun...Be around us "mean and nasty scooter trash" LOL It will help her get back to living and to also be more open to starting a new life without him...
treecutter write:
A man was hiking through the woods and found a cocoon. He watched the cocoon every day waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.
Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
The man in his kindness and haste did not understand the purpose of the cocoon. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. That was the only way it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. We would like to go through life with ease and especially no pain but that isn?t always the case.
Oh man Tree .... you never cease to amaze me brother. That was just so beautiful and so true....
Are ya tryin to tell us "In God's time not ours" ?? lol.....So true......
Treecutter, you are the man. You have a way with words
poisonchild13 write:
I dont need a mate but my 36 year old sister does. She wont get out in the world. Her husband died on his bike in a awful crash. 2 years now. I would love to set her up for a lunch date. She is 5'9 and gorgeous,long hair to her waist. about a size 6. If interested to help me leave me a mesage poisonchild13.. central Florida people only please.
your a great sister, but there is pretty much nothing you can do for your sister till she is ready to start dating on her own. It might do her more harm than good to get her to date when she is not ready for it I'm a widow of 13 years today and yes i have moved on with my life but there are days when i still miss my husband.......So give her time and your support. That is all you can do for her right now
treecutter write:
A man was hiking through the woods and found a cocoon. He watched the cocoon every day waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.
Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
The man in his kindness and haste did not understand the purpose of the cocoon. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. That was the only way it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. We would like to go through life with ease and especially no pain but that isn?t always the case.
Oh man Tree .... you never cease to amaze me brother. That was just so beautiful and so true....
Are ya tryin to tell us "In God's time not ours" ?? lol.....So true......
crazyme write:
Honey, I,m a widow of 4 years and this is my first year dating. It still seems like yesterday. Listen to those experienced, just be supportive, mention this site and others just for fun. Thats what my girls did. I was tired of crying, needed some laughs and compliments. give her time,everyone grieves differently. Good Luck.
Crazyme
Awww Sweets I hope we can bring smiles to your pretty face.. I'll try to be as funny as possible! Sorry for your loss, I hope you find love one more time here on this earth.
A man was hiking through the woods and found a cocoon. He watched the cocoon every day waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.
Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
The man in his kindness and haste did not understand the purpose of the cocoon. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings. That was the only way it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. We would like to go through life with ease and especially no pain but that isn?t always the case.
Honey, I,m a widow of 4 years and this is my first year dating. It still seems like yesterday. Listen to those experienced, just be supportive, mention this site and others just for fun. Thats what my girls did. I was tired of crying, needed some laughs and compliments. give her time,everyone grieves differently. Good Luck.
Crazyme
I'd also be concerned about setting her up with a bike owner. May bring back some very strong negative memories. If she goes to the Daytona rally, then you'll know she's ready. Make sure you have her input before you push her too far.
You're a sweetie to be concerned about your sis, but take it from an "older" widow.
Has she had any counciling or taken a grief recovery "course"?? That might be a better way for her to start healing. You sure wouldn't want her to get into a relationship that wasn't good for her and cause her more pain ( believe me !)
Time doesn't heal everything, too often all that happens is that more valuable time passes. Sometimes we have to take the responsibilty for our healing into our own hands - you can't force her, just be supportive.
